We all know the feeling of a missed opportunity, the stream of “what ifs” that flows from regret. Sometimes a window of opportunity truly does close and there is nothing left to do but cope with the emotions that fill the resulting void. But often, whether in our relationships, careers, or with regard to personal goals, we do get a second chance to get it right. If we want to give ourselves the best opportunity to get it right the next time around, it pays to focus on why we

One hundred and sixty seven. That’s the number of hours the typical client spends outside of therapy each week, and it is ultimately the time in which real change takes hold. Some people may not initially view the other 167 hours as part of the therapeutic process. They may begin by using therapy as a release valve on their stressful lives, enabling them to ‘let off steam’ for an hour a week and then resume living as before. There is certainly some value in that, but if thera

Have you ever watched an ice cube melt? It’s not the most exciting way to spend an afternoon, but it conveys a valuable lesson about the process of change. An ice cube in a typical freezer has a temperature of around 0°F (-18°C). If you take it out of the freezer and set it on a countertop you’ll need to watch it for quite a while until you seen any signs of change, as ice begins turning to water only when it reaches 32°F (0°C). It may seem as though this overt change occurs

As children, we learn how to feel, think and act. Over time, we reinforce these ways of feeling, thinking, and acting until they become psychological habits deeply ingrained within us. Unfortunately, some of these habits may get in the way of happiness, causing emotional harm to ourselves and straining our relationships with others. Thankfully, as adults, we have the ability to change these habits. The first step is gain insight into our habits and where they come from. This